Tarot - Saturday 2 Swords (24.10)

While the 2 of Swords in the Rider Waite deck stands for purposefully turning a blind eye on matters to keep the peace and thereby closing your heart and holding down your emotions, Crowley sees the 2 of Swords as Lord of Peace. Swords represent the mental world, the mind. The number two evokes polarity. So, balance is required, between the heart and mind. So, while the Rider Waite deck focuses on the difficulty of finding this balance resulting in doubt, the Toth deck emphasises on the balance coming from insight and making up conflicts and planning.

Of course the first conversation about an incident is not always enough, and a couple needs to then discuss what "rules" they ought to live by to preserve the peace between each other, discuss a plan of what each can expect from each other in a similar situation.That is exactly what we did, including Sunday for which I did not pull a day card.

For example, I want and understand that my boyfriend wants to meet people and start building his own network of friends. On the other hand we both would want to go out together too: nothing more pleasant than showing off your partner in the social world, certainly in the early stages of a relationship. But I also need to work in the week, and be well rested in order to be a just teacher. Another example: I'm used to invite friends over once in a while. So, I think he should be able to invite his new made friends over, even if I don't know them, even though it remains awkward as an idea because it is my apartment with my stuff (he's acting very responsible about it though). Or we make plans to visit my parents to do the laundry there, and one partner thinks we will stay over for dinner when invited, while the other wants to go back home.

The difficulty is finding a balance in all of this, and it does not always come naturally when both partners have lived on their own for years and are chronically used to do as they see fit for themselves.We're bound to make mistakes without intention, and need to find a way to set up a communication pattern that will avoid making such mistakes and gives the other person the most insight in each other's plans.